LADY OF SUBSTANCE/FINANCIAL CRUNCH.

Nomsa Andile is a lady who beleives in not giving up no matter how tough a situation.

Born 35 years ago in East Lodon in the Eastern Cape,Nomsa moved to Johannesburg(Egoli) the 'City of Gold', to search for better opportunities in her life.Johannesburg was a great place for her to explore and find her inner self. When you get to meet her for the first time,you get to feel like you have known her all yout life.

Iam welcomed to her home by the sound of children playing and I feel right at home even before I set my eyes on the family.

Nomsa met her husband Moses Andile,a man also from the Eastern Cape and it was lady luck on her side,so she thought. Little did she know that what seemed to be gold in her eyes would turn out not to be so shinny.

Moses Andile also rose to the occassion and has worked so hard in changing his life and crawling out of a poverty stricken life.Many people in their village look up to them as an example and an inspiration to the young.Moses a psycologist, is a lecturer at the University of Johannesburg and he also counsels students at the University.

I got an honourable chance of meeting Nomsa Andile when to picking my daughter after school hours at creche.It was an easy introduction on our part and we clicked so fast, I do not know why but I beleive there was a super power that made us click.I was so new in South Africa and she was my first friend who took me around to know places.

Marriage life to her has not been an easy ride but she has learnt to endure it and take it as it comes.All along Nomsa knew that her husband was a recovering alcoholic who did not want to use help thathe was being offered.

The couple have 3 lovely daughters and 1 son,who Nomsa is looking after single handedly because Andile is not helping her much as he should.Nomsa has learnt to take it all in her stride and not complain much even with the global crisis.

She tells me that her husband is on a one month suspension from work after getting so many warnings which he did not take seriously.''Can you imagine my husband is not worried whether the children eat or go hungry.I do not know what to do but Am asking God for strenghth to go on.''

We were having a sisterly chat and before I knew it Nomsa broke into sobs and I could not find enough words to comfort her.I felt sorry for her.She went as far as to tell me that she had a miscarriage all because of the stress.

Nomsa said that at her house she felt the global financial crunch like no one else felt it.Her children are going to school due to a loan that she got from her bank.They have had to go with oine meal per day because she cannot afford to feed the cildren lunch and supper.

''Am not going to let this deter me from what Am doing,I know God has greater plans for us and He is going to see us through.Andile has been at the Alcoholics Rehabilitation center here in Johannesburg and he does not seem to be improving.I do not know what is to happen to us if he is to give up the will of getting better.''

Her teaching job has seen the family through rough patches that would have seen one not strong enough take to the hills!A soul bread winner for the family she has so much that is to deter her but she does not want to draw the curtain yet.

There is this one time that Andile did not come home for one week and no one knew where he was.Later for Nomsa to learn that he had lost it and had been taken to a rehabilitation center in the Eastern Cape.

He had left the house without saying where he was going to.

Nomsa has vowed to herself not to give up,now that times are hard for many people,many who are loosing their jobs and others their homes!

HOME IS ALWAYS BEST

It has got me thinking about my country men who are going back home because of one or too many reasons.

I know what it feels like to leave family and friends all in the name of searching for 'greener pastures'.Truth be told there is no one who wants not to make a name for himself and his family and be a somebody.I don't blame anyone because I for one has been there and done that.

I had so much to give up in the name of love and family ties for I was newly married and I wanted to stay in touch with my beloved.My daughter and I joined my darling hubby after him being in SA(South Africa) for six months.

The joy of coming to SA was overwhelming,I was very new in marriage and I was ready to roll anywhere where destiny took memRelocating was not easy at first but I got by with a few loopholes here and there.Above all the love that we shared as a family kept us intact and strong and nothing would deter me.

I had my preservations as to whether I was to leave all I had behind or search the greener pastures that awaited us with bated breath.

ALWAYS MUMMY.

My mind is not thinking straight right now and I don't know what the reason is!

It does not seem like Am going to have anything interesting to talk about,my mind is not racing fast enough,maybe the joburg cold is getting to me.

During the weekend I got to spend quality time with my family and there never seems to be enough time to be together,because Am so busy and I feel like Am not giving my family my all.Lately I have learnt to spare some great me time before I go nuts,women have been juggling all in one plate and not taking care of themselves as they should.

It is time that women get to love themselves and have some 'ME' TIME' because when you do not get some 'me time' if not enough, you will forget who you really are at the end of the day and what you really are capable of.

A study has been done in the last 2 months in Kenya by the Daily Nation, where it was discovered women are neglecting their homes in terms of putting their careers ahead and forgetting the 'home front'.It has come to light that, the people the career woman thought to be the least of her worries,' the nanny', is in fact the real threat.

The working class woman being away all day and not giving attention where it is due,the nanny has been helping herself with what is not in her territory.She gets to bond more with the madam's children and the children love her for being there for them when mummy is not.

One career woman got the shock of her life when her husband of 10 years told her, he thought their marriage was not working and that he was marrying the nanny.The husband argued that,
his wife had forgotten to take care of him by doing little things for him.

The study showed that it is time the career woman woke up and smelt the coffee.

WHACKO DEAD?

MICHEALWAVING YOU AND ME GOODBYE.

I did not beleive it when I heard from the grapevine that Micheal Jackson is dead,I still can't bring myself to beleive he is gone.

Growing up as a little girl Micheal's songs played in our living room,both my parents and especially my dad loved his music.Call it knowing and having a good taste of great music,that was my dad.I know that he too is devastated like me.'Ghostbusters',when they come into your neighbourhood who you gonna call?GHOSTBUSTERS! This is one song of Micheal that I loved so much and 'Moonwalking'.He had dance moves that I for one cannot beat and Iam a great dancer,but he beat me to it hands down.

May his soul rest in peace and God knows why He had to take Micheal,this time when he was planning his COMEBACK.He could have been the comeback kid that no one expected to make such a wonderful music career and music legend of our times.

SORY FOR THE INCONVINIENCE

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THE SUGAR.

Words cannot explain what my mother has seen in this life,she has been through hell and back.

I hold so dear to my heart ,that when she was going through a very difficult situation I was not there for her.She has and will always be there in my life and I thank God that The Almighty gave me a chance to know,love and respect her in all aspects of life.

I am writing this and hoping there is someone else out there going through the rough patch in life.My mum is a very hardworking and strong woman person and I admire her for every effort that she put,into making me the being I am today.

A spiritual person who never forgets to go down on her knees,when times have proven to be unfair to her.She is a tough cookie to crack and I try to emulate what she is in this short life.Hystorectomy came calling when I was going to college,members of the family had to donate blood type B+ to save her life.I recall I had no much time to spend with her after her operation but my dad and younger sister were there all the way.

The heavens came crushing down on us,when mum was later confirmed to be diabetic!What a life we all thought because we had no idea how we were to sail through?I htought life sucks at some point and it felt like there was no will to go on.

I recall visiting her one day and she assured as all was to turn out okey. Don worry my child every hurdle that you go through in life only makes you stronger', she said.

Spending as much time with her was my way of letting her know that I did not desert her in her time of need and I made sure she knew that she meant the world to us.Words at times may not make difficult situations easy,but deep down in my heart I prayed that she knew it all.

Days have passed and it is now 9 years since she has been able to manage her sugar level and enjoy a healthy diet.We have all learnt, what it is to eat healthy and not complain that brown bread does taste good!

Mum has long stopped injecting herself and all that she does now is watch what she eats. I can confirm the road has been rugged and the journey has been long, but we have come out victorious,any way.

Victory is ours.

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